I once had a prospective client come and see me, for the purpose of this article I am going to call him Dave.
Dave is a lovely chap, a genuine top guy that wants to achieve “success” as he defined it.
He was open to the idea of investing into himself, so much so he had invested £42,000 into himself by learning all sorts of strategies to help him create the lifestyle he desired via property investing for 5 years prior to us meeting.
Despite investing a pretty penny over those years he had achieved very little by way or financial return in comparison to his investment.
Lack of action, yes thats a given.
But why the lack of action?
Well he simply wasn’t aware of the invisible force preventing him from achieving the success he desired.
So if you, like Dave are not achieving the success you desire right now then it is almost certainly down to this invisible force.
That invisible force comes in the form of limiting beliefs.
It’s limiting beliefs that are stopping you from achieving your success.
Below are the top 7 limiting beliefs that people who are not achieving the success they desire have on either a conscious or subconscious level.
I want you to to read them and be 100% honest and answer from your gut if you feel you have them.
1. I’m not good enough
Normally born from a childhood situation where someone told you wasn’t good enough but carried throughout life due to the little voice telling you you aren’t good enough. At other points throughout life other people have reinforced this limiting belief by saying the same thing. You have that little voice telling you aren’t good enough but meanwhile are taking all the action you can. It’s like having one foot on the accelerator and one on the brake.
How to overcome it: We overcome thing by playing with the submodalitities of the little voice and a change of focus as to why your are good enough.
2. No one likes me.
Everyone has flaws and some people are more than willing to point them out at the worst times. You may think that you aren’t well spoken or don’t have perfect manners or you may feel like you don’t really belong. It can be easy to assume that no one likes you, just because you don’t have a large group of friends. However, like most limiting beliefs, this one is self-fulfilling. Because you believe you don’t deserve friends or relationships, you don’t try to have them and therefore, you don’t.
How to overcome it: Once you realise this perception isn’t the reality, you can take the steps to reverse its effects.
3. I don’t want to be rejected.
This is a common limiting belief that affects many people from all walks of life. It exists in a student who is fearful of asking the teacher for assistance, a worker asking a colleague for help and especially in a person trying to ask another person on a date. This limiting belief is driven primarily by fear. No one wants to be rejected, but the fear of rejection is much often larger than the actual event. Only you can decide not to allow it to interfere with your plans.
How to overcome it: This often overcome by a difference of perspective and making the outcome about others rather than ones self.
4. It’s Impossible!
There are things that are possible and things that we believe are impossible for us. These are frequently very different. While you may realise that the goals you want for your life have been accomplished repeatedly by many others, you may put them in the impossible category because you feel you lack the qualities, knowledge, tools or resources necessary to accomplish them. This is actually connected to the first limiting belief that I discussed: you don’t feel good enough. This is how you sort goals or tasks in life into the ‘can do’ or ‘can’t do’ list. This happens automatically on a subconscious level and will frequently cause you to reject ideas before they are even considered.
How to overcome it: By exploring possibilities of making it possible by listening to/reading empowering stories or metaphors and
5. Tunnel Vision
People with this limiting belief believe that there is only one solution to a particular problem or that there’s only one way to perform a certain task. For example, you may think that the only way to really make money is to get a good education, get a good job and work your way up the corporate ladder. But, many self-employed people are making excellent money. If your response starts with, ‘Yeah, but….’ Then you have this limiting belief and believe that things can only happen in one way for you and it has to be a specific way. What this does is limit all the other avenues that may be viable for someone else, but for some reason they won’t work for you.
How to overcome it: Allow yourself to accept other routes that are aligned to your value to achieve the same goal by becoming conscious that the goal is more important than the route.
6. It’s not going to work, anyway.
This is one of the most damaging limiting beliefs anyone can have and sadly, it’s very prevalent. These are the people who constantly see the worst. Almost as if they’re trying to protect themselves from getting their hopes up. Often, these people believe that whatever they do will fail, so they don’t try to or only give it a half-hearted try. Again, this is a self-fulfilling prophecy: they fail not because it was inevitable but because they believed it was so. It can be hard not to be sceptical when trying something new. However, if you allow this limiting belief to remain, you’ll repeatedly fail, thereby reinforcing this belief.
How to overcome it: By creating multiple possibilities of how it could work and focusing attention on resources (internal and external) to enable that to happen.
7. I’m not special.
This limiting belief is the basic belief that success requires some special quality or spark that you don’t have. It’s the feeling that you’re just average and it’s too much to expect that you can accomplish anything great. This belief that you’re not ‘chosen’ allows you to escape the responsibilities of making the right choices for your life. You’re ultimately responsible for your success, but with this limiting belief, it can be easier to find something or someone to blame rather than making the choices required to bring about your own success.
How to overcome it: Taking full responsibility for your thoughts, actions and outcomes. Defining what special is, getting really clear on it and close in the gap . Remembering you are completely unique and that there isn’t a single person on the planet that is the same as you.